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Let s be honest. Someone referenced Fatawa al Hindiyy. I went to check it. It says (basically) that oral sex is permissible if no fluids will contact the mouth. If one engages in oral sex in such a way wherein there is no sexual fluids and impurities on the tongue or in the mouth, then it would be considered disliked. So unless the woman is as dry as a desert and the man can cap his volcano, there isn’t a human ability to comply. Yes, couples do it because it’s pleasurable or they wish to try, but let’s be honest and true to ourselves. It’s not permissible end of story.

If he likes it then no harm into giving to him what he enjoys and vice versa. I am sure there are things that you enjoy too which you should tell him about

Dont judge

If its something that will please him, do ut. U explore other ways of pleasing him as well, spice it up so he doesnt need to ask. Women have the power to pull a man into her place of comfort. Work at it.

Fiqh of oral

Here is fiqh on this matter http://seekershub.org/ans-blog/2011/...s-of-oral-sex/

Oral sex

In whichever tests people quote on oral sex which says makruh. ...disliked .....Makruh here refers to tahreemee and not tanzeehee..Tahreemee is as good as haram.Between this makruh and haram is only a technical difference...

Oral sex is permissible

Besroom issues

To the postet that says its haraam. Do proper research. The Ulema are divuded on this subject. Its not haraam. Its makrooh. Anal sex is haraam. Sex on your period is haraam but oral sex is Makrooh
The famous Hanafï Fiqh reference work, Al-Fatäwa al-Hindiyya, states: “if a man inserts his penis into his wife's mouth, it has been said that it is disliked (makrūh), and others hold that it is not disliked.” (Al-Fatä wa al Hindiyya 5 :372)

Bedroom issues

It's not about being a prude, it is haraam, read kitaabun nikaah, if it's so normal do you see animals doing it? Poster make dua that Allah gives him hidaayat, tell him that you will not allow it, Allah comes first.

Actually

U need to communicate with him outside the bedroom and discuss what makes u uncomfortable and what you like and what u dont like.
Many guys learn about sex from porn and see that as the ideal way to pleasure your partner but in essence it is just actors that are in front of a camera making sounds and being robots.

Speak to your partner and discuss what the needs in the bedroom are. If your islamic concern is legitimate u can discuss it with your partner to find out from an alim u trust and then see how u can find new ways to be intimate that u both comfortable with.

Dont be a prude

If u make istinja its clean