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22-05-2013, 08:15 PM
In you late 30's, After 15 years of marraige n kids, how often are you intimate with your partner. I know that its different for everybody but just wanna get a sense of what is average. So how many times a week/month ???

12-06-2013, 04:52 PM
About 2 or 3 times a week. But it depends on how tired we are, whether other issues (eg. finance, children) are affecting our mood, the time of month (menstrual cycle), etc. Intimacy is not only about penetrative sex - more importantly it is how a couple relates to each other during those private moments. Remember, the skin is the largest and most sensitive sexual organ - touching, caressing, massaging, hugging, nibbling the neck or ears is key to intimacy. If you regularly touch each other and make skin to skin contact, the sexual relationship will hopefully improve.

23-07-2013, 08:15 AM
3 kids and work a million miles from home...come home to crying kids and frustrated wife...so for us if its once a week im lucky!..otherwise its happyhour in the shower

31-07-2013, 11:39 AM
1 a day sometimes twice. when its that time of the month, we have other "rear" options hehehe

01-01-2018, 09:12 AM
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Causing harm to the wife by not having intercourse is grounds for annulment in all cases, whether the husband did that intentionally or otherwise, and whether he was able to do it or not; it is like maintenance, and even more important. End quote.

Al-Fatawa al-Kubra, 5/481-482