View Full Version : Mother wants out of marriage due to betrayal

28-01-2015, 12:47 PM

My parents have been married for 33 years now and mum recently found out that dad has been betraying her for 26 years of their marriage.
He even has another child from that woman, he didn't make nikaah with her and refuses to, the lady also doesnt want to.
It's very heartsore to go through, as a daughter too I'm finding it tough to cope because I've always looked up to my father. To know that he has cheated and hurt my mom is hurting me even more.

Mum doesnt want me or my 4 siblings to discuss it with dad. Dad is more worried now of his izzat than my mothers feelings and doesnt want her to leave. She wants out but then she's never worked , always took care of the house and me and siblings. Doesn't want to be a burden to any of us.

How do we deal with this?

I speak to my dad and show him respect but in my heart I know I lost respect for him.

09-02-2015, 06:53 PM
Your mother is obviously devastated and she will go threw all the stages of grief. Anger, denial, blame, etc. Help her understand her feelings are,completely valid and be supportive. She should seek counseling to work through everything like Islamic care line or even a private councilor if she wishes.

I would personally leave...but I don't know her and I am not in her shoes. Let her do what is right for her, she will find the strength and Allah s.w.t will provide for her, through you'll or any other means'.

she should also make istikara.

I don't think,she,should stay if she can't forgive him, because that would tear her up.

09-02-2015, 09:48 PM
im sorry for what you are going through, my dad got involved with a younger woman and later remarried her and put my mum through a lot of grief so I hav an idea of what you are feeling . It's heartbreaking to see your mother like this . All you can do is to be there for her and be supportive and make lots of dua for both of them . You all need Islamic family counseling. May Allah make it easy for your family.

pious muslimah
09-02-2015, 10:27 PM
Although its nt easy but with d help of Allah.pls forgive him as Allah do forgive us. If nt for him but for Allah sake n your children. Its nt easy to raise children alone. Pray to Allah to clear your mind and take all your husband children as yours,its nt easy buh Allah is with the patience,take heart