speaking from an EMOTIONAL abusive relationship.... What happens is that (in this case husband) blames you all the time, he convinces the wife that she has issues with relationships or childhood issues, tells you all the time you are ungrateful or jealous etc... in short he always tells you you are the problem.
on one hand is so affectionate loving and out the blue he fights with you be it emotionally, verbally or physically.
in may case he blames me for all his wrong and then says that it me with issues and he is trying everything to help me!
its a cycle and one in which you start questioning yourself and start believing you are a problem!