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    Inlaws keep telling husband what to do

    Salaams all. I am married for 4 years this year. I was working before i had a baby. I left work since my baby was born. Shes now 2 and half years old. when my baby was born my in laws was busy making plans for my baby to stay at their home with there domestic helper.(i wasn't directly told. this was told to their helper in my presence)( And we were not living with them, we were renting ). I refused i resigned and stayed at home with my child.My belief is that you can always make money but you can not get back your child's childhood and everything they do as babies. Shukran to the almighty my husband has bought a house a year ago. Things maybe a little difficult now and then financially but there is not a day where we run out of food or anything that we need shukran to the almighty for this.( i do not have a domestic worker, i do everything in our house). But my in laws keep on telling my husband to send me to work till today reason being my mother in law left her children with a domestic helper from the time they were babies. She want me to do the same. Every-time my husband goes there he comes home, a few days later he always has something to say.(husband can never refuse his parents for the world) Ya Allah (swt) please help me. My mum lives very far. sometimes i just want to leave him, take my child and go stay near my family. Leave my child with my mum and go to work.I love my child so much. Just the thought of leaving her makes my heart cry. Please advise what do u do? why do in laws always have to interfere?

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    Slm sister. Inlaws interfering is very common. Its what tore my marriage apart. So I advise you do whatever you can do save your marriage. Its best to move away from both parents. Parents have a unique influence on their kids. I can identify with this. Speak to your husband and make him understand how you feel. Communication is very important. Hope things work out for you people.

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    You have the right attitude. No amount of money is worth what you yourself will teach your child. Time enough to work later. When your hubby brings it up just mention this fact in a non confrontational way and tell him that you are content with what he earns. A mothers presence is priceless. The little things like istinja, saying bismillah etc a domestic will never take as seriously as you. When your in laws bring it up also mention these things casually. And stay firm in your decision and don't allow anyone to get to you. Good luck. You are making the right decision and don't let anyone convince you otherwise

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    You are so misguided

    If you have such a BIG problem with how your mother-inlaw raised her kids why did u marry your husband?? Also why is it ok for u to leave your husband and have your mum raise your child while u work but u hav a problem with your mil raising ur child? by the looks of it your mil will do a better job than ur mum - just look how u turned out!

    there r always two sides to every argument!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    If you have such a BIG problem with how your mother-inlaw raised her kids why did u marry your husband?? Also why is it ok for u to leave your husband and have your mum raise your child while u work but u hav a problem with your mil raising ur child? by the looks of it your mil will do a better job than ur mum - just look how u turned out!

    there r always two sides to every argument!
    the mil wants the domestic to look the child....read properly before u start arguing gosh!!!!!!

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    Shukran

    Shukran to those you who have given me positive advise. And to the person that wrote "You are so misguided". Please read before commenting and do not comment at all if you have nothing constructive to say. And by the way the mil works. Another thing do not go around judging a person just because they asking for advise. I mean look how you turned out. Can not even read a paragraph and understand!!.

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