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    Unhappy upset by hubby

    slmz nanima and fellow nanimaers. My husband and I have been married for almost three years now and we have two kids. The problem is my hubby and I fight all the time since day one(we even fought on our honeymoon). I tried sooo much to look at myself thinking maybe m doing something wrong and even went as far as going into Pardah thinking that would make a change. the thing is i married him coz i thought he was leading a proper islamic life but getting to know i see that he isnt islamic at all it was all a front. but he still pretends to be oh so holy in front of everyone. if i were to say anything they would think i am lying because he puts up a massive front. he is a womaniser , and is really stingy. we are two different people I want to live a proper islamic life and be an example to my kids but how can I when their father is off track. the thing that gets to me most is that he will justify his wrongs and make like i am the bad one. i tried speaking to him but he just makes like I am talking none sense and I am wrong or swears and verbally abuses me and tell to go back to my mother.. I dont what to do I wanna leave but I do love him I pray soo hard that things change but theres only soo much one can take..pls help jzk.

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    hubby trouble

    Slmz,sister I would suggest couples counselling for you both you must try to convince him into working together for the sake of your marriage and your kids. Pray for his hidaayat,and try and see things from his perspective to understand him better. No doubt he is wrong,you aren't the problem, his only making you feel like you at fault because that's probably his way of dealing with the fact that his not living up to your expectations.He knows you don't approve of his ways.Counselling is a must! Inshallah things will work out for you.

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    upset by husband

    Slmz I know exactly how you feel. I have the same problem with my husband. I spoke to his parents & sister & they r on my side. But they said that he has a problem & he needs professional help. He wouldn't accept that. I still love him for some weird reason but very dissapointed. I recently found out that he goes through porn sites on his laptop. Please advise

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    Unhappy upset by hubby

    Slms.I'm married for 11yrs.I was expecting our 1st child wen my hubby accused me of committing zinna.we have 3 kids and he doesn't trust me @ all.I almost went into purdah.I get told that I look @ evryman in the street.it gets to a point where physical n verbal abuse gets used and infront of kids.kids r nervous wrecks.friends said go 4 marriage counselling.doesn't even trust me at my parents.checks my fone,evryday.can't delete anything then I get told I'm hiding and up 2 no gud.

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    Upset by Hubby

    So sorry to hear what you're experiencing. What you need is serious counseling, together with your husband. If that does not materialise, the next time he tells you to go back to your mother, take him up on the offer. How do you love a person who is abusive? I just cannot understand that! A marriage means a union of respect. If there is no respect there is nothing. I would invite you to carefully weigh up your options.

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    upset by hubby

    Slmz ladies I was married for 6 years have 3 kids. But I too found a lot of change that I too don't like. Hubby goes on excursions with other woman does not even financially support me always fighting infront of the kids yet how many times I haveexplained to him not to fight infront of them. I approached his mother, father n his sister n they too pretended to be my side. Went for marriage councilling. Went to jamiat. Had 8 months separation only to rather get depicted as I am pshyco until I could not take n filed for divorce

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    upset wid hubby

    Zzzzzzslmz trying to post my view point

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    upset wid hubby

    Slmz I too have been used n abused by my ex. As I sit n respond to u sister I am in my iddat. Ur situation sound so much similar to mine n I find it amazing howe many of us young woman out there faces these criterias. I could not take it anymore n came to a point. I too went for councilling. I was married for 6 yrs n have three minor children. Wee use to argue n fight all da time. His friends was much more important. He never even paid for any of my confinements. His money was only for his pleasure. When we discuss something about money we eneded up not even talking. I approached his mum, dad n his married sister but they back stabbed me. Thinking that I might get help from them as there son was not financially supporting me. I begged him not to argue in front of the kidz but he did not listen. So my dear wat do I do. He lived of me I even had to pay the kidz creesche on my own. Hewas always having a fun and good time. I approached jamiat n now ex is exploiting by lettoing everyone know I am pshysco. But I am glad I asked for talaaq n he refused to grant me. He wanted me to give khula whereas than he wanted money. I did luv him n he is after all da father of my kidz but I cannot take it anymore]

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    Slms ladies it seems that we are fighting a different jihaad. A silent battle. All I can advise is pray to Allah try to do things that make your spouse happy within confines of shariah keep your hearts happy with the love of your children. But be silent when husbands shout and scream don't judge their actions as it only makes the situation worse. On the day of judgement each person will answer for their own actions. Be strong and keep busy

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    Allah make it easy

    Assalamu alaikum my dear sisterz in Islam. All i can say is that i ask Allah to make it easy for you's. Its realy heart breaking to see how many marital problems there is. I am not a counceler but Alhamdulillah i have tryed to help many people. Remember there is one way forward and thats to follow the shariah. Unfortunatly so many men watch porn, chat to other women etc and its sad but we find so many women that also do not observe the rules of hijaab and who do not give their hubbys full credit. . . May Allah guide us and make it easy. Remember me in your duaas for verily the oppressed persons duaas are accepted

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