Salaamu alaikum everyone.

This is more a statement than a question...
Iíve noticed recently that many women donít mind not Ďbeingí with their husbands regularly and look for silly excuses to Ďget out of ití from headaches to being tired to not wanting to mess up their ironed hair, having a busy day with the kids etc...

I just want to say, being married for 10 years now, Iíve learned that one of the best things a wife can do is satisfy/service/get down with your husband regularly. (Im a wife)

I SO understand the injunction of the Hadith that chastises a woman especially, for refusing her husband unnecessarily because Allah has made men different in a sense that if they go for a couple of days without being with their wife, their propensity to look at/flirt with/fantasize about other women increases greatly!

If youíre sorting him out at home, he will definitely be much less likely to want attention from other women.
For me, having a jealous streak like Iím sure most of you have, I feel much more comfortable knowing my hubs is going out into the world with an Ďempty tankí so to speak ☺️

Of course there are exceptions to the rule where for some men, itís never enough, but a couple of times a week should really be the benchmark for all married couples. If itís regularly much less, I can quite safely say that one of the spouses are finding other means of release (online, self service, outside service).....

Husbands and wives! Please be mindful of reviving this important part of marriage in a way that is mutually pleasing to both spouses! Too many couples are not working out because they are not on the same page about this very crucial marital component...

May Allah bless all married couples with fulfilling. And gratifying relationships in and out of the bedroom!

Aameen. "