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  • 29-08-2012, 10:06 AM
    Unregistered
    just a word to all on the forum, please if you have no islaamic knowledge on a matter please do not jump the gun and pull out fatwas from your back pocket!!

    sister your nikaah is NOT broken, what your husband did is a major sin and is only zina, it is just a temporary hurma (haraam to marry) because your sister is haraam for him while married to you but she becomes halaal for him if/when you pass away

    and Allaah knows best!
  • 26-08-2012, 10:46 AM
    Unregistered

    Fight for what?

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Slmz, sister, I understand what u r going through it is a very difficult time, discovering that ur husband has been unfaithful to u, pls do sabr, Allah is on your side, Allah only gives problems to those who he loves, and knows that they can deal with it. This is a test from Allah. When u are ready, forgive your husband, though u will never be able to forget, fight for ur man. Eventually, he will realise that you saved him from the punishment of the grave, and love u more for it, as for your sister, forget her, she is jealous of you.
    Fight for a man with whom her Nikah is no longer valid? It shows how much it's abhorred even in
    Islam! And what is there to fight for when he clearly has no regret and is continuing his evil acts!! It's not a game for the sister to win. Please give good advice.
  • 26-08-2012, 07:36 AM
    Nanima
    Sadatullah Khan will be in south africa soon. I highly recommend you attend this course. It will give u the skills to deal with this crisis inshaAllah http://www.nanima.co.za/2011/03/disc...datullah-khan/
    also sister haifaa younis is in pretoria today and polokwane next week. Both these courses are life changing
  • 26-08-2012, 07:26 AM
    Nanima
    We do the worse of sins and Allah with his infinite mercy and grace forgives us. To break family ties is a major sin
    Although you have to be civil with her you dont have to be her best chomie like nothing happened. A believer does not get bit by the same hole twice. Set your boundaries with her
    tell her to give u space.
  • 26-08-2012, 01:45 AM
    Unregistered

    My sister slept with my husband

    Jazakallah, dear brothers and sisters for the strong words of encouragement during this difficult period! I remain positive and with the help of Allah. I will be comforted and healed! It is the reality which I have to accept!I turn to Allah to make it easy for me! My husband I will always love, but I choose to live a separate life now! As, for my sister she continues phoning and playing me like everything is ok!!!How could I look at her for the rest of my life? It will be a bad tasting memory that will never be forgotten!I would like to find out if I would commiting ghunnah if I shut her out of my life forevr? Sisters, out there what would you do if your sister placed u in this dilemma?

    May Allah give us guidance, and keep us all on the straight path! Keep mi in your duas and may Allah make it easy for all of us! (Ameen)


    Jazakallah Brothers and Sisters!
  • 25-08-2012, 08:55 PM
    Nanima
    Please consult with a learned scholar regarding the status of your nikah. A believer does not get stung from the same hole twice. So if you leave this relationship, we won't blame you. It is a very difficult situation and I make sincere dua Allah make it easy for you. here is your chance to get closer to Allah. At the end of the day this whole life is immaterial. What we need to focus on is our relationship with Allah. Re evaluate your relationship with your creator. What ever you do, always think of HIM first. Will he approve will he disapprove. Wake up for tahajud, maybe start fasting more. Read and learn the Quran. What really helps is doing more good deeds. time to focus on your life.. everyone at the end of the day are accountable for their own actions.. Allah will judge them and deal with them.. this situation is not cut and dry.. also breaking family ties is a major sin.. but eish, i don't know about this situation.. ultimately and eventually you will have to forgive. Forgiveness is not a weakness, it empowers you and sets you free. You don't have to be best chomies with your sister and you don't have to ever see your husband again but forgive as the person above said, it will set you free..
    Allah has decreed this and it has happened. Now to take 1 day at a time. QadaraAllahu masha Fa ail - Whatever Allah has decreed has happened. Allah is the best of the planners..
  • 25-08-2012, 08:31 PM
    Unregistered
    If im nt mistaken the nikaah is broken. Consult an Aalim ASAP
  • 25-08-2012, 04:35 PM
    Unregistered
    Slmz sister. Ur nikah is not broken. The reason 4 impermissibility of marrying 2 sisters at the same time is that no 2 sisters will marry u @ the same time. I do agree with the other posters turn to Allah, for Allah knows best and we knw not. As far as ur sister is concerned shame on her! May Allah punish her accordingly. As 4 ur husband u have 2 decide if ur gng 2 stay with him or leave him, whether he's gng 2 do this again or not and why he did it. In future I do hope that u follow the rules of islam and purdah more seriously, as ur hubby n sis must not have observed purdah with each other. Now u knw why Allah prohibits such things. Take heed and may Allah make it easy 4 u
  • 25-08-2012, 04:35 PM
    Unregistered
    Your nikah is already broken. Please don't have conjugal relations with him as this will be regarded as zina. Please email mufti AK mufti@ciinetwork.net. He will advise you as to how to deal with this. May Allah give you the strength.
  • 25-08-2012, 03:00 PM
    Unregistered

    Solution

    1.Getting out of the marriage will bring peace of mind and heart. It will definitely lessen the psychological burden.2. By forgiving them you will st yourself free. Because if you don't, then you will be the prisoner.3. Don't be in a depressed mood try to be positive and you have a choice if you want to be happy of sad.4. Look at those who are less fortunate than you and this will make you appreciate what you got. Don't live in the past because you will spoil your present which will affect your future.5. Know that you not alone and Allah is always with you and He will punish them for their wrongdoings. You are only responsible for you actions. So make the best of whatever situation you are in.6. I hope this advice helps you and May Allah make it easy for you and grant you the strength to have a way better life
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