Reply to Thread

Post a reply to the thread: My sister in law keeps calling and smsing my husband

Your Message

Click here to log in

Retype the word madala246

 

You may choose an icon for your message from this list

Additional Options

  • Will turn www.example.com into [URL]http://www.example.com[/URL].

Topic Review (Newest First)

  • 13-03-2013, 08:35 AM
    Unregistered

    Shukrun for all the replies

    Shukrun for all the replies, this has really helped me to pluck up the courage to confront her.
    Shukr itís been a week now and she has not contacted my husband.
    May Allah reward all of you in abundance.
  • 27-02-2013, 09:10 AM
    Unregistered

    confront her

    Sister , I think u need to put a stop to this now! She needs to learn her place and there is no need for her to be texting ur hubby and saying she is waiting for "him". If she calls to say "hey we r waiting for you'll" its different. Give her a call and ask her why she keeps doing this , also ask her if her husband is aware that she does this. Tell her if she doesn't stop you will bring this up with her parents , yours and your in-laws. Tell yoir husband you don't like it and you will not tolerate it! So he should stop her before you bring up the issue with everyone's parents! This is definitely not innocent. I also phone my brother in law but never to say I'm waiting to see him - that's just mad!!! There is no reason for her to be speaking to him like that. And why is she calling him? Can his brother not be the one to call? Or his parents? U need to watch her body language around him... Hope you sort this out soon! How old is she btw?
  • 27-02-2013, 08:23 AM
    ayesha rangraje

    you have every right to be concerned about your sister in laws behaviour

    You have every right to be concerned about this very bad and inappropriate behaviour on both their paths. Please pluck up your courage and speak about it openly in front of your in laws and husband when you are all together. There is nothing innocent in any woman who deliberately tries to ingratiate herself in the regard of a married man nor is there anything innocent in a married man allowing such attempts to continue. Learn from all the horror stories out there of wives who were left devastated becasue their husbands supposed innocent friendship with another woman lead to him marrying the friend. If your husband has such a poor character you have alot of heartache ahead unless you make it known right now that you will not accept this. Please do not accept it. You deserve better. Anyone who tells you its ok for them to do this is very mistaken.
  • 26-02-2013, 06:00 PM
    Unregistered
    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    The next time you guys are all together as a family casually mention something that she messaged your hubby about. Eg. I saw on his phone that you were waiting for us. We were running late that day. Was there something you needed to discuss? Each time relate the message when you are all together. That way her hubby will also realize how often it occurs and maybe it will caution her also about how inappropriate it is. Obviously both of them know that its not the norm and both still entertain it. Do this in a nice, calm manner without getting defensive. Maybe when its known by all what is occuring the habit will break. Good luck
    This is a very a good idea! TRY IT!
  • 26-02-2013, 05:00 PM
    Unregistered

    mr

    I think u should tell your husband that u dont like that she phone and sms him,if he is a sensible honest man he will take heed and try to stop entertaining her,if he stil doesnt then that means he is getting pleasure out of it, being a married man iI know that
  • 26-02-2013, 04:57 PM
    Unregistered

    concerned

    Women like her dnt knw wher to draw d line! U nid to make her realise that wat she's doin is WRONG! If I pic my sil smsing my husb something like dat, I will totally flip. Its none of her business wher ur husb is n whether she's leaving or watevr is d case. U mus put a stop to this. Speak to ur husb 1st and tell him u not happy with their relationship, its not acceptable. If it stil goes on, u nid to tel her dat if she wants to discuss neting, she's free to cum to u, there's no reason 4 her to go 2 ur husb.
  • 26-02-2013, 02:04 PM
    Unregistered
    You need to tell ur hubby u unhappy with it n if she calling to ask where he is then she def has other motives. Next time she calls answer his phone n say he is not avail, is there anything u can help with, when she sms reply n put ur name. Call her n tell her to stay away from ur hubby. If this dsnt end tell him u going home n take a brk n c if he does anything to avoid her.

    Damn she has a hubby yet interferes with urs.
  • 26-02-2013, 01:45 PM
    Unregistered
    Since I have not seen the situ, I cannot say whether it is or is not innocent. But I think you should be wary of over reacting, My husband and I have been married for 5 years. My (younger) brother in law in single, but when he had a gf, I would never contact her, I did not know her so well so I didn't. There was def nothing going on. It may be something like that, it is not necessarily that she has intentions on your husband. If she did and he felt the same, obv he would not have married you.
    However, that being said, if you feel uncomfortable, then you need to tell her that your hubby is bad at checking his phone, something like that, and she would have better luck getting a hold of you. The next time she sms or calls, tell your hubby to ignore it.
  • 26-02-2013, 01:17 PM
    Unregistered
    The next time you guys are all together as a family casually mention something that she messaged your hubby about. Eg. I saw on his phone that you were waiting for us. We were running late that day. Was there something you needed to discuss? Each time relate the message when you are all together. That way her hubby will also realize how often it occurs and maybe it will caution her also about how inappropriate it is. Obviously both of them know that its not the norm and both still entertain it. Do this in a nice, calm manner without getting defensive. Maybe when its known by all what is occuring the habit will break. Good luck
  • 26-02-2013, 01:13 PM
    Unregistered

    don't let this go on any further

    She probably has feelings for your husband, this kind of thing is never purely innocent. She's staying close to him the only way she knows how. I think you should be extremely weary of her. And if your husband is entertaining this closeness iw ould watch him too. You need to be frank and honest with her and tell her its making you very uncomfortable.
This thread has more than 10 replies. Click here to review the whole thread.

Posting Permissions

  • You may post new threads
  • You may post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •