Worried, it is a chore for her

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Slmz,My wife feels that if i ask for intercourse more than once a day im abnormal ?? is this true ? Also its a chore to her nd just to get over and done with ?

Plz helpp really frustrated.

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Astagfirullah!! How can it be a chore...

It is a mission to do it twice a day though because as ladies we have long hair so it takes forever for our hair to dry
She could be pregnant so she lacks interest in taking part in the activities as often as it would drain her out more

The main thing is that you mustn't go and just ask her for it.. Be romantic, tell her you got something planned do she could also dress up..
But speak to her about it

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Unfortunately this is typical "indian woman" mentality.This leads your husbands to seek pleasures else where.Then its to late to cry.Sisters keep ur husbands Happy in the bedroom and see the difference in the marriage

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Heyy!! Not all indian women are like that, its kinda pathetic and they wonder why their husbands cheat
When I get married I will never be so harsh like that

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I disagree, I have to beg my husband to do the deed. He always complains he's too tired and what not but he'll sit up and watch tv. Then i get upset coz i took the time to dress up nicely for him and get all heated up and only when he sees that i feel rejected then he wants to do it. I can't do it as often as i like.
Its not all indian women, don't generalize. But everyone is different, some have lower drives and others have higher drives. I personally wouldn't mind doing it everyday or even twice a day!
Before i got married i always said that when my husband asks me i will do it gladly, coz excuses such as "not in the mood" aren't valid. and islaamically we are supposed to satisfy them. seems like im doing all the asking

that just my 2 cents. sorry if i offended anyone

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The sister's should keep in mind if you do not satisfy your husbands needs the angels curse you the entire night

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There may be a deeper problem in your relationship. I can't believe somebody here said "Indian woman mentality". What rubbish. Do you think we have secret meetings and come up with things like this? My husband and I once didn't have "intimate relations" for a YEAR. Yes, you read that right, ONE YEAR. We are still together, and still in love but there were problems that we just weren't dealing with. Because of that, I didn't really feel like I trusted him completely, and so I stopped feeling comfortable and in the end, stopped having sex. We dealt with our problems, and slowly it is getting back to normal.
It may be nothing, or it may be a warning signal that something isn't right. Talk to her and see what she says. Things may suddenly improve once you've talked about it. Good luck :)

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I disagree, I have to beg my husband to do the deed. He always complains he's too tired and what not but he'll sit up and watch tv. Then i get upset coz i took the time to dress up nicely for him and get all heated up and only when he sees that i feel rejected then he wants to do it. I can't do it as often as i like.
Its not all indian women, don't generalize. But everyone is different, some have lower drives and others have higher drives. I personally wouldn't mind doing it everyday or even twice a day!
Before i got married i always said that when my husband asks me i will do it gladly, coz excuses such as "not in the mood" aren't valid. and islaamically we are supposed to satisfy them. seems like im doing all the asking

that just my 2 cents. sorry if i offended anyone

I feel the same.. I am in the same situation.. Hubby is just not interested in having intercourse with me.. Not sure why... He always says he is tired. But he can watch tv and play ps till the early hours of the morning.. I also see that he gets his pleasures on his phone sadly...

So I am quite sexually frustrated and i feel like having an affair.. I think about it all the time but then when i think of my kids, i feel so guilty. I would not ever be able to have an affair and face my kids.. and i am not willing to stoop to that level as it is not me.. so here I am, 26 years old and sexually starved while my husband pleasures himself on his phone in the bathroom rather than turning to his wife.

Not that I am unattractive or fat or any of that sort of issues. I don't bother dressing up in lingerie anymore as I feel that I am "begging" and I dont wanna face the rejection and project by desperation by dressing up in sexy lingerie..

Any advice from men out there would be appreciated.. Why does my husband prefer pleasuring himself with his phone rather than come to his wife?

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I wish my husband culd ask me for s x. U so lucky!I'm not even married for a year n I'm lucky if i get it once in 2 weeks. I am ALWAYS the one who hasta ask and iniate things. Its come to a point where I just don't feel for it anymore because I feel lyk I'm begging. He doesn't decline me if I must ask but for once I jus wish my husband could be a real man and take control of the bedroom. He's not having an affair,he doesn't look at porn or nething. I'm guessing he jus has no s xual drive. I hav told him sooo many tyms how I feel but it goes in d one ear n out the other.he says he doesn't iniate things because he knows I'll do it!!! What bull**** is tht.he says he'll start to but he doesn't attempt at all. I culd stand completely naked in front of him and he won't even try to do nething with me. N I am attractive. I jus wish I could be swept off my feet for once instead of feeling lyk a desperate whore. :(

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I wish my husband culd ask me for s x. U so lucky!I'm not even married for a year n I'm lucky if i get it once in 2 weeks. I am ALWAYS the one who hasta ask and iniate things. Its come to a point where I just don't feel for it anymore because I feel lyk I'm begging. He doesn't decline me if I must ask but for once I jus wish my husband could be a real man and take control of the bedroom. He's not having an affair,he doesn't look at porn or nething. I'm guessing he jus has no s xual drive. I hav told him sooo many tyms how I feel but it goes in d one ear n out the other.he says he doesn't iniate things because he knows I'll do it!!! What bull**** is tht.he says he'll start to but he doesn't attempt at all. I culd stand completely naked in front of him and he won't even try to do nething with me. N I am attractive. I jus wish I could be swept off my feet for once instead of feeling lyk a desperate whore. :(

I feel the exact same way, not even married for a year. I also dont think my hubby is watching porn or pleasuring himself so i guess he just has a lower drive. He told me quite a few times that he doesnt think its good to do it everyday (dont know why) and he also said that we shouldnt do it too often so that we dont get bored and lose the fun in it. I really dont understand that coz i'm getting frustrated coz if i could i wouldnt mind it everyday, but i'll settle for atleast three times a week which seems to be too much for him.

I'm looking for something to lower my drive since its just frustrating for me.
As another poster mentioned, I also don't bother with lingerie sometimes coz i'm scared of the rejection, and i'm also very attractive, i look after myself and my body, but it just doesnt help.

Its really crap, but i always think of the guys i could've married and we wouldn't be having this problem and i'd be satisfied

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Most Muslim men do not understand the importance of treating their wives fairly in sexual relations. Both men and women have equal rights. I suggest that you read and share with your spouses the advise of Shaikh Ahmed Kutty: http://askthescholar.com/question-details.aspx?qstID=331

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I feel the same.. I am in the same situation.. Hubby is just not interested in having intercourse with me.. Not sure why... He always says he is tired. But he can watch tv and play ps till the early hours of the morning.. I also see that he gets his pleasures on his phone sadly...

So I am quite sexually frustrated and i feel like having an affair.. I think about it all the time but then when i think of my kids, i feel so guilty. I would not ever be able to have an affair and face my kids.. and i am not willing to stoop to that level as it is not me.. so here I am, 26 years old and sexually starved while my husband pleasures himself on his phone in the bathroom rather than turning to his wife.

Not that I am unattractive or fat or any of that sort of issues. I don't bother dressing up in lingerie anymore as I feel that I am "begging" and I dont wanna face the rejection and project by desperation by dressing up in sexy lingerie..

Any advice from men out there would be appreciated.. Why does my husband prefer pleasuring himself with his phone rather than come to his wife?

Most men have it the other way around. They want their wives and they get deprived. either force him to have sex with you by spicing things up or contact me

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No my brother, don’t heap blame on your wife alone. Take responsibility for it. If your wife finds sex as boring as vacuuming then ask yourself what had you done to make her feel that way. Intimacy begins in the wife’s mind. Leave little notes around the house where she’ll find it a day or two before. Doesn’t have to be dirty. Just romantic. Touch her suggestively on a non-sexual part of her body (although in truth the woman’s whole body can respond) like a 30-sec shoulder rub out of the blue and a tight squeeze After. Pinch her rear, have a naughty laugh and leave it be. You’ll find she will respond and will insist on dusting your table one of the nights. Come on. We men have to also take responsibility. You can’t whip it out and assume she will just automatically respond.