View Full Version : Marriage Counselling

08-11-2012, 08:27 AM

I think this is a very important topic seeing that many Muslim marriages are falling apart for petty reasons and adults doesn't assume their roles and responsibilities in a marriage.

I would like to know if anyone has given marriage counselling a try and has it changed your married life for the better?

Was it worth it or not? And any recommendations on marriage counselors?

08-11-2012, 03:12 PM
My marriage broke and even though I so much wanted to go for councelling but my ex did not want. I am also dissapointed that elders from both families did not help try and resolve. Frankly my marraige broke apart for unneccassary reasons and could have been avoided. I urge all those undergoing strain in their marraiage to consider counselling as this may be what you need. Unfortunatel religious institutions are all too eager to break families apart and often are not qualified to counsel couples.

I request ur duas. I still am suffering from my loss.

12-11-2012, 03:32 PM
Can i have a no for an aalim or moulana to seek advice

15-11-2012, 12:17 PM

I tried in vain also to get assistance from Muslim religious leaders for my marriage and met in dead ends all the way. I have been for councilling for myself and I have learnt alot about my own behaviour and why I do certain things that I do. Why I practically go nuts after 3 days of being ignored... how to calm down and have the patience to sort something out later and not want to fix it immediately. You see we are told have sabr but we are not taught how. I learnt alot of how to's in councilling. If your partner is ready and willing Insha Allah it will benefit you both. Select a clinical social worker or a counciller who is very practicle that will give you tools not one who just wants you to tell them your story.

My partner does not believe in councilling or any kind of shura at all (no moulanas, no family, no friends) and had friends (who were single and showed him how to surf the internet for porn and called me his elephant) that would take him in everytime he packed up and left the house. Sadly though he is the one who needs more help than anyone because a man that beats his wife is a troubled person.

In the end I had no choice but to call the cops because I was pregnant and he would have hit me again - that was the end of our marriage. I would have love to call an imaam who would be there and take him away calm him down and sit us both down and go through practical aspects of marriage in Islam and assist him with his issues.

I wish for you only peace and the best possible outcome. May Allah be the guiding light in your marriage.

20-12-2012, 11:09 PM
I'd like to know what to expect when going for counselling, basically what is ur first session about? I'm considering going for counselling next year I.A

14-01-2013, 09:25 PM
It is interesting how few have studied what Allah advises regarding marriage.
Allah created us and also marriage so what better counsel to follow?
I have been for counselling but the best guidance and solace i found is in the translations of the Quran. (not hadith)
It must be your best friend, read it daily...

Many read the Quran but practice something else.
The Quran and it's message can be your best friend and it is the only book which will take you out from darkness into light.