View Full Version : will this feeling go away

25-08-2012, 03:13 PM
Hi .married 4 like over 10 yrs. I'm 29 yrs of age Ĩ have 4 kids. Αη∂ I'm like really hot. Ĩ need 2 be intimate at least twice a week but 2 scared 2 tell hubby. I'm worried don't want him 2 think I'm jhuks or sumting. Ĩ love wearing hot stuff αη∂ doing hot stuff. Should Ĩ confront him . Or if Ĩ ignore dis will dis hot feeling go away.

26-08-2012, 03:04 AM
I don't mean to be sexist here but don't men love that?? Being hot n wild? I think if its too difficult to tell dearest hubby then incorporate it in ur daily lifestyle...take initiative. U may even find out that he likes it...

29-08-2012, 09:52 AM
unfortunately some men do have low drives and sometimes they might want to do it but feel too tired or something distracts and puts them off n so they lose interest.. i think u should speak to him about it, he is ur husband after all, no need to feel shy.. get him in a good mood n then open up

i think twice a week is quite sensible.. that feeling probably will go away, try not to think about "THAT" too much or anything that will make u feel u want it more
and also, if ul decide m settle for 2 or more times a week, set aside a day before hand so that he knows what to expect and he can leave any headaches stress and issues of work at work! and if he complains that hes tired n not in the mood after work then when he gets home, welcome him lovingly, get him in the mood, allow him to relax n settle in, give him a massage n all that.. he might really enjoy it and it will get easier for both of u

14-09-2012, 10:48 PM
I have the same problem,need to have sex @ least twice a week..but my marriage is so boring, love my husband to bits, but find that I desire and look at other men..because I'm just not getting any!my husband is always tired,or work.too many excuses..I'm beginning to wonder if we are compatible at all..tried talking openly about it, he is too embarrassed ..tried seducing him, just ends in disaster, with me sulking and very frustrated!

18-09-2012, 12:23 PM
There is absolutely nothing wrong with these feelings, in fact you are at the age where your libido is starting to peak and there is wisdom in the way Allah SWT created us. A woman is allowed to have the same desires as a man, and the fact that you're expressing them in a Halaal relationship makes them even more legitimate. Have an open honest discussion about exactly what you want with your husband.

Noorjehan Joosub
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19-09-2012, 02:19 PM
honestly I cant wait to get home from work so that I can be with hubby..... He loves that i have a high sex drive... he says he doesnt mind and loves all the attention he recieves!!!!!!