Nanima
06-06-2012, 07:30 PM
Slms nanima.
I have been married for 25 years and have 1child.
However,marriage has never been a bliss. Before marriage i have went out,socialising,having many male friends.the hubby keeps insisting on to know the things i used to do.i have sound knowledge of islam,and as far as i know,he does not need to know about my past.but i have told him anyway,but since he thinks so low of me,somethings that iv never done,i told him i did.basically he doesn beleive wat i say,and always says im hiding sometying.the thing is he does watever he wants.goes out,comes home the next day,gets drunk,swears,hides his mobile,i dont even know wat goes on in his life.if i question him for these faults,everything is turned towards me,he starts asking wat did i do in my past,how do i know this and that person,wat am i hiding,why do people talk bad about me.basically he saying indirectly, he can do wat he wants coz i cant be honest.pls note,since marriage,allhamdulillah,i have changed and been a good wife and mother.i dont have any family to rely on,i dont have any friends.i dont go anywhere,i dont do anything wrong.we do have some good times,but its just back to square one again.pls help and advise is there something wrong with me.i regret my mistakes as i was young,but i have asked Allah for forgiveness...im thinking of divorce.not sure how to do it.
I have been married for 25 years and have 1child.
However,marriage has never been a bliss. Before marriage i have went out,socialising,having many male friends.the hubby keeps insisting on to know the things i used to do.i have sound knowledge of islam,and as far as i know,he does not need to know about my past.but i have told him anyway,but since he thinks so low of me,somethings that iv never done,i told him i did.basically he doesn beleive wat i say,and always says im hiding sometying.the thing is he does watever he wants.goes out,comes home the next day,gets drunk,swears,hides his mobile,i dont even know wat goes on in his life.if i question him for these faults,everything is turned towards me,he starts asking wat did i do in my past,how do i know this and that person,wat am i hiding,why do people talk bad about me.basically he saying indirectly, he can do wat he wants coz i cant be honest.pls note,since marriage,allhamdulillah,i have changed and been a good wife and mother.i dont have any family to rely on,i dont have any friends.i dont go anywhere,i dont do anything wrong.we do have some good times,but its just back to square one again.pls help and advise is there something wrong with me.i regret my mistakes as i was young,but i have asked Allah for forgiveness...im thinking of divorce.not sure how to do it.