Aussie_gal
10-01-2013, 04:10 AM
Salams everyone
I am married to a South African man and just wanted to know if it is a cultural or normal behavior for them to "baby" their kids?
By "baby", I mean, when my son falls down he make a big drama about it "are you alright my bachoo??...sorry my baby!!" and puts band-aids on when not necessary at all or when my son goes to ride his bike he needs to wear his protective gear (I understand a helmet, but nothing more than that, unless he is in some sort of competition).
I dont know, but could my husbands actions be the reason why my son cries for slightest things? My son also seems to always get his way with his dad, even though i ask him time and time again to not do or buy something for our son, he still does it (which is very frustrating at times)
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a heartless mum, i want my children (esp my sons) to be strong, confident (and pious Inshallah Ameen).....i just don't want them running and crying every time he scratches his finger or knocks his knee (although i do magically fix scratched fingers and knocked knees with kisses ;D )
I see getting hurt as part of growing up, whether it be falling off your bike, knocking your toe etc etc...I guess we were just bought up differently. What can i do to get my hubby to easy up on "babying"
Would love to hear what your hubby is like with your kids :)
I am married to a South African man and just wanted to know if it is a cultural or normal behavior for them to "baby" their kids?
By "baby", I mean, when my son falls down he make a big drama about it "are you alright my bachoo??...sorry my baby!!" and puts band-aids on when not necessary at all or when my son goes to ride his bike he needs to wear his protective gear (I understand a helmet, but nothing more than that, unless he is in some sort of competition).
I dont know, but could my husbands actions be the reason why my son cries for slightest things? My son also seems to always get his way with his dad, even though i ask him time and time again to not do or buy something for our son, he still does it (which is very frustrating at times)
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a heartless mum, i want my children (esp my sons) to be strong, confident (and pious Inshallah Ameen).....i just don't want them running and crying every time he scratches his finger or knocks his knee (although i do magically fix scratched fingers and knocked knees with kisses ;D )
I see getting hurt as part of growing up, whether it be falling off your bike, knocking your toe etc etc...I guess we were just bought up differently. What can i do to get my hubby to easy up on "babying"
Would love to hear what your hubby is like with your kids :)